The NotaClub ‘Survival Kit’ has been created for people who currently have or who might be considering starting a relationship with the NotaClub Social Community.
It provides common-sense suggestions about how to ‘play the game’ so that everyone who is associated with the NotaClub Social Community in any way can enjoy good fun and good socialising in a safe and harmonious environment with other like-minded people.
Generally, people who become associated with NotaClub are grateful the ‘Survival Kit’ has been created. They consider the suggestions it contains are not a surprise or deal-breaker for reasonable people who take responsibility for their own actions who would consider these suggestions no more than ‘common sense’ anyway.
None of these suggestions are negotiable and a relationship with NotaClub assumes the unconditional acceptance of ALL the suggestions listed in this NotaClub ‘Survival Kit’ by any person who decides to form a relationship and participate with the NotaClub social community.
NotaClub ‘public’ has a minimal requirement for participation and is open to just about anyone who wants to join in with our ‘good fun and good socialising’ activities.
Just about ALL get-togethers NotaClub social community organises are on the NotaClub ‘public’ calendar available for ALL people associated with NotaClub to attend and enjoy.
As the NotaClub ‘public’ calendar is open to scrutiny by just about anyone, it may also be that people who have NO relationship may come and join in with our good fun and good socialising activities we organise at at events in public places – and they are welcome to do so.
The more the merrier.
… but …
If an individual chooses to ‘join’ NotaClub ‘public’ and include themselves on the member list on Meetup – but is then inactive for an extended period of time, general ‘housekeeping’, (which is attended to by a bunch of NotaClub ‘public’ organisers), will remove them from the group’s member list. (If this occurs, they may be able to return in the future).
In many respects NotaClub ‘public’ is ‘training wheels’ for ‘NotaClub a family’ and it gives people an opportunity to meet with the NotaClub social community, find out whether we’re each others type of people, and decide whether NotaClub’s activities are the sorts of social get-togethers they want to get involved in.
NotaClub’s ‘family’ group is NOT open to casual participation – and includes only a relatively small number of people who are the main participants of the NotaClub social community who by their collective activity, make NotaClub so successful.
Their relationship with others within this group is more like that of a ‘family’ and a lot of NotaClub’s ‘family’ get-togethers are limited to members of this group, (as they’re frequently in people’s homes).
ANYONE can become part of this ‘family’ group – simply by their PARTICIPATION in NotaClub as a whole and anyone who demonstrates that they’re like-minded people by involving themselves in NotaClub can expect an INVITATION into NotaClub ‘a family’ quickly.
The requirements for an invitation into NotaClub ‘a family’ are, unsurprisingly, quite straightforward:-
- … active participation in social get-togethers others organise.
- … organising get-togethers others can participate in.
- … a level of assistance within NotaClub that benefits all other ‘family’ members.
- … a level of acceptance from other ‘family’ members that we’re ‘each other’s type of people’.
- … regular attendance at our ‘Ultimate Social Get-Together’ on Wednesdays.
Your relationship with NotaClub assumes you’re an adult who is both physically and mentally capable of dealing with situations that may occur at NotaClub get-togethers as they do in every day life.
You participate in NotaClub activities AT YOUR OWN RISK.
If a NotaClub get-together includes physical activity the decision to participate or not participate in that activity, along with the consequence of your decision, is entirely your own responsibility.
NotaClub is NOT responsible in any way for anything that occurs AS, or NOT AS, a result of your association with NotaClub either as part of the NotaClub social community or as the guest of someone who is part of the NotaClub social community or as an invitee or as a visitor to any NotaClub get-together or in any other capacity.
NotaClub is an active social group for adults. Sometimes things don’t go the way people would prefer. If that happens to you and you’re looking for ‘sympathy’, you’ll find it between ‘R’ and ‘T’ in a dictionary.
… is NOT a club – you cannot ‘join’ it. An ongoing relationship with NotaClub is entirely dependant on your continued active participation in it’s many social activities.
… is NOT ‘for’ people who have any agenda which differs from NotaClub’s. (Read this twice).
… is NOT a ‘singles’, matchmaking or dating group, (in fact many of NotaClub’s most active members are couples or married). NotaClub’s agenda is ‘good fun and good socialising’, NOT matchmaking.
… is NOT a ‘social ‘free-for-all’ where people come and go as they please, do what they like, when they like with little consideration for others.
… is NOT a financial enterprise for any individual or business. Participation in NotaClub’s social activities do not incur any costs or fees.
… is NOT a community anyone is automatically entitled to join. Initial acceptance and continued association with the NotaClub Social Community is at the absolute discretion of the NotaClub administrator.
… is NOT for people who do not participate in it’s many social activities. After about 2 months of non-activity, without explanation or communication, the administrator will assume you’ve lost interest in NotaClub and it’s activities and will likely remove you from the Notaclub community list – without prior notice or warning.
… is NOT a source of customers for your business.
Promoting or canvassing customers for your business at any NotaClub get-together contradicts NotaClub’s agenda which is simply ‘good fun and good socialising’. While NotaClub – ‘a family’ has a facility for members of it’s ‘family’ community to advertise their businesses on the website, so that people who might have a need for the services provided can contact the appropriate business themselves, other business-promotional activities or canvassing within the NotaClub social community are not appropriate and unlikely to be tolerated.
… is NOT a ‘family’ group and it’s activities usually do not cater for children. (As far a NotaClub is concerned, ‘children’ are generally anyone aged under 40 but could be older).
If you’re wondering whether it’s OK to bring your children to a NotaClub social get-together the answer is almost always … ‘No, it’s NOT OK’.
Please don’t attempt to make
your problems NotaClub’s problems.
- If you have physical, emotional or psychological conditions or if you require medication, whether prescribed or otherwise, to assist you in getting through your day then NotaClub is NOT for you.
- NotaClub is a social community, not some kind of ‘welfare’ group or part of anyone’s personal recovery or rehabilitation program.
It could be that many people in NotaClub’s social community are doing their best to take a break or ESCAPE from situations that involve friends or relatives with physical, emotional or drug-related issues.
- If you are a medical services provider, please don’t make your client’s problems NotaClub’s problem.
Please do not recommend your clients ‘join’ NotaClub because you think THEY will benefit from attending NotaClub’s social activities as part of THEIR rehabilitation.
- If you’re not capable of looking after yourself or require ‘special’ attention of any sort at any NotaClub get-together you attend then don’t attend.
Meetup's business is to provide an online 'system' for groups to utilise - for a fee - and endeavors to brand groups that uses it's service as 'Meetup Groups'.
This tends to give the impression that groups that use the Meetup system sort of 'work' for Meetup or that Meetup is responsible for the groups that pay to use it's online system.
This is NOT the case - there's NO SUCH THING as a 'Meetup' group.
Meetup has no interest in, nor does Meetup get involved in any way with the running of, any group that uses it's online system other than to investigate possible breaches of it's 'Terms of Service' that everyone agrees to and should read before starting a Meetup account.
NotaClub - and other groups that use the Meetup system do so of their own volition and expense.
NotaClub has no other relationship with either Meetup or any other group that also use Meetup's system to house it's group's activities.
Meetup has a system where people get to ‘rate’ Meetup ‘events’ they attend, (NotaClub calls them get-togethers), using ‘stars’.
NotaClub’s attitude towards this ‘star rating’ system is that it’s badly flawed and outdated and is completely irrelevant to our social community.
‘Star Ratings’ should NOT be used to rate NotaClub get-togethers but, because we can’t turn the rating system ‘off’, we’re stuck with it.
Used incorrectly it can even be insulting to a get-together host who’s could have spent a lot of time, effort, and maybe even personal expense on the creation of a get-together for the benefit of all NotaClubbers if someone takes it upon themselves to rate it with less than ‘5-stars’. (Imagine, for example, that the event organiser is YOU!)
Get-Together hosts, (who ARE ‘playing the game’) by arranging events for our benefit are NOT to be subjected to ‘star ratings’ – unless that star rating is 5-stars.
So, what do you do if you receive a message from Meetup prompting you to rate a get-together you attended? (This is particularly relevant to people who use the Meetup ‘phone-app’ on their mobile phone).
Nothing! … Simply IGNORE THE MESSAGE FROM MEETUP.
Or, if you choose to ignore THIS message and actually USE the Meetup star rating system to rate an event, there’s ONLY ONE RATING THAT IS ACCEPTABLE TO NotaClub – and that’s 5-stars.
It’s only common sense.
NotaClub’s ‘Ultimate Social Get-Together’ is probably the best social get-together to attend first to come check out NotaClub and we all get to find out whether we’re ‘each other’s type of people’.
Just about anyone can come to it – there’s no ‘booking’ required. If you want to attend – just DO.
You don’t have to ‘join’ NotaClub in any capacity to come to this weekly get-together and we have a whole bunch of people who ONLY come to it every Wednesday.
There’s more information about this get-together HERE
Just about every person who has a relationship with NotaClub started it at a Wednesaday ‘Ultimate’ get-together as it’s sort of turned into an introduction to NotaClub’.
People who participate with ‘NotaClub – a family’ invariably attend this weekly get-together just about every week – it’s the ‘glue’ that holds NotaClub together and it’s where we get to meet people joining us for the first time.
It’s always an exciting evening as you’ve no idea WHO will be coming.
… IS one of Melbourne’s most ACTIVE social communities.
… IS a community of like-minded people, mostly in the ’over 40s’ age group, who regularly congregate at various locations for the purpose of ‘good fun’ and ‘good socialising’ in safe and, usually, inexpensive environments.
… IS a community where EVERYONE can and is encouraged to host SOCIAL GET-TOGETHERS for the benefit of others.
… IS a community where you can express yourself let loose and have FUN, with like-minded people, in casual and mostly unstructured social environments.
… IS for couples as well as singles and invites participation from couples as well as ‘singles’. (Many of NotaClub’s most active members are ‘couples’ or married).
… IS for people who are or want to be socially ACTIVE.
… IS for people who ADD VALUE to social events by being generous in their participation, laughter and sense of fun.
… IS for people who want to enjoy the company, camaraderie friendships with others in a social community environment.
… IS FREE. NotaClub has NO membership, joining or other ‘hidden’ fees.
The NotaClub organiser IS GOD.
… and …
… other than to ensure that NotaClub’s activities satisfy it’s ‘good fun and good socialising’ ethos and attend to the day-to-day administration of the NotaClub Social Community with, complete impunity.
Should the NotaClub organiser appoint co-organisers, they too have a similar standing.
A get-together organiser/host has ABSOLUTE, (god like), discretion about how their get-together is run also with complete impunity.
Participation with NotaClub either as a member of the NotaClub social community or as a guest or visitor to any NotaClub social get-together or any other capacity affords NOBODY ANY ADDITIONAL RIGHTS or PRIVILEGES than any other person who is or isn’t associated with NotaClub may have at the get-together’s location.
NotaClub‘s BIG on ID pics – and we want to know what you look like.
(Why would anyone want to join a social community and not be OK with other people knowing what they look like?)
Your ID pic must clearly identify you – much like a passport photo – and satisfy ALL of the following criteria.
- Only YOU in the image.
- NO Hats or Sunglasses.
- NO ‘side’ , ‘distance’ or ‘alternative’ images.
- NO ‘in the shade’ or ‘vague’ images.
In short – do not post a photo that doesn’t clearly identify you.
DO attend get-togethers you RSVP ‘in’ to.
If you RSVP ‘in’ to an get-together and find you can’t make it – advise the host in plenty of time. The discourtesy of just ‘No Showing’ can result in removal from NotaClub especially if your RSVP took a place at a limited numbers get-together that was full and your RSVP prevented someone else from attending.
DON’T just ‘show up’ to get-togethers you haven’t RSVP’d ‘in’ to, (unless they’re deemed an ‘open’ get-together to which anyone can attend with whomever they want to bring with them).
Don’t arrive at a ‘private’ get-together with non-NotaClubber ‘plus ones’, (or more), without asking the get-together host that their attendance is OK well in advance.
If a get-together RSVP deadline has passed and you decide you want to go to it, contact the get-together organiser to ensure it’s O.K. to attend – don’t just ‘turn up’ – particularly if it has a limited attendance.
Do NOT treat NotaClub like a ‘singles’ club and come to get-togethers only in search of your next relationship. Instead, come to socialise with other like-minded people and see what happens. If it becomes apparent your agenda at get-togethers is anything other than ‘socialising’ you won’t be welcome to return.
Use Common Sense and Courtesy
If common sense says a get-together requires you to bring a ‘plate’ or something – DO. That doesn’t mean bring a bag of corn chips then tuck in to everything ELSE that’s available. Rule of thumb – take enough (real) food for you to eat plus a bit more to share with others. No-one, (and that includes the event host), is required to feed everyone but everyone’s expected to CONTRIBUTE.
If you’re bringing ‘plus ones’ or more – it’s YOUR responsibility to ensure you bring sufficient supplies for them as well.
In addition to soft drinks, if you intend to drink alcohol, take enough alcoholic drinks for yourself and any ‘plus ones’ you might bring with you. If you run out of what you brought you’ve probably had enough already so don’t help yourself to alcohol brought by others.
Assist the get-together host during the event.
Whenever possible, help the get-together host to clean up.
NotaClub ‘family’ was MADE ‘Private’ at the request of those people in it’s social community – who may choose to host get-togethers in their own homes or for select groups of people and NotaClub ‘family’ activities are private – DO NOT SHARE YOUR NotaClub ‘family’ ACCOUNT DETAILS with any other non-family-NotaClubber.
Use Common Sense and Courtesy
NotaClubbers often host social get-togethers/ parties in their own homes – or other get-togethers with an attendance limit, (restaurant events are a good example).
It’s not unusual for a NotaClubber to want to attend the get-together with a friend who isn’t a NotaClubber or a person not in NotaClub ‘private’ and RSVP ‘IN’ to the get-together with a ‘plus one’.
But ‘private’ get-togethers are for NotaClubbers in NotaClub ‘private’.
The get-together wasn’t arranged so you can entertain your friends.
And, if the get-together is at someones home, in the same way you’re not likely to be happy with a bunch of strangers wandering around your house you can bet the host feels the same way.
Anyway, plus ones can fill a limited number attendance limit, possibly preventing another NotaClubbers from going if the event is otherwise ‘booked out’.
DON’T RSVP ‘IN’ to ANY ‘private’ get-togethers or with ANY ‘plus-people’ unless you’ve cleared it with the get-together host IN ADVANCE.
Preference to get-togethers with limited numbers will always be given to NotaClubbers – NOT plus-ones.
OK’ing it with the event host in advance, DOESN’T mean leaving a message on the get-together listing saying something like ‘I hope you don’t mind I bring my XXX as a ‘plus one’ … which means the event host has to respond BACK if it’s not O.K.
In most cases, if you DO clear it with the get-together host in advance you’ll probably find there’s no problem including your ‘plus one’.
Use Common Sense and Courtesy
NotaClub encourages birthday celebrations within our social community.
They’re great opportunities for good fun and good socialising.
Also, birthday celebrations are an important and natural function of the close social community that NotaClub is and enable people to demonstrate their respect and friendliness for others in our group.
This in turn makes NotaClub the great social community that it is.
Our problem is, NotaClub averages many birthdays weekly and collections for gifts within or community can become financially onerous – so we’ve come up with these guidelines to try and ensure birthday fun doesn’t become a financial burden.
If you want to start a ‘kitty’ for someone’s birthday gift – do.
But … here’s the guidelines about what’s acceptable in our community.
The ONLY birthdays now acceptable for special attention by NotaClub is for ‘significant’ or ‘0’ birthdays – those in between don’t count.
The ONLY birthdays now acceptable
for special attention is for
‘significant’ or ‘0’ birthdays.
– those in between don’t count –
Not at our AGE.
NotaClub events are about good fun and good socialising – not fund-raisers for upcoming birthdays.
If you love someone so much you think their in-between birthday requires a party and it involves a financial cost, that’s OK – but YOU should fund it yourself or make arrangements for the people who attend to be able to make their appropriate contribution at the party, if they attend.
While, strictly speaking, Wednesdays are NotaClubs ‘introductory’ night it’s OK for you to let the host know you’re collecting for a birthday and they can advertise this and let others know during the evening’s announcements – or if you don’t want to advertise it because the person is there you can canvass the attendees and invite those people to see you at another time if they want to participate.
If you want to ‘collect’ money for someone’s birthday, you should make it known and those people who WANT to participate can come FIND YOU IF THEY WANT TO PARTICIPATE and make their contribution. There’s no other acceptable way.
If they don’t, then consider the matter closed.
Gift cards are OUT – the gift is a cake, (and card).
The ONLY acceptable gifts a person gets from now on is a CARD and a CAKE, (with all the trimmings, adornments and sparkly things if you so desire).
Rule of thumb the total cost for a cake
only needs to be about $45-$55 right now.
If you take it upon yourself to start a birthday collection, you realise that, by starting that birthday kitty, YOU’VE taken on the ENTIRE responsibility of organising and covering the cost of that card, cake, it’s decorations, plate, forks, serviettes etc and SERVING at whatever occasion the birthday person gets presented with it.
Grab some other volunteers at the get-together to help you if you like.
You should stop collecting donations once you have enough to cover the costs.
If, after paying for the card and cake and attachments you have cash left over and you don’t know what to do with it you shouldn’t have collected it.
If there’s any cash left over it’s bad management on your part and maybe you shouldn’t be starting a birthday present collection at all.
You should have stopped when you had sufficient money to cover the cost of the card, cake, adornments, plates forks, serviettes.
(Probably about $60-$70 all-up).
The good news is … you can donate any ‘overs’ to the NotaClub ‘kitty’ for the ultimate benefit of all NaC’ers.
Money/cash is NOT to be given as a gift.
Recommended maximum donation $5 p.p – but individuals can make their own minds up about what they want to contribute.
If you think about this it’s just common sense and puts us all on the same page.
A clique is ‘a group of persons who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same location and tends to exclude others not in that group’.
Cliques, in any social environment, happen without people realising they’ve made one and occur normally regardless of gender, ethnicity, or popularity.
Cliques are so ‘natural’ people don’t realise they’ve started one or are in one.
Simply, people engaged in conversation don’t realise they’ve formed a clique and effectively closed themselves off to others in the same location.
The problem is, other people DO – as they come to realise they’re on the ‘outside-looking-in’ in a social environment, particularly if they are NEW to that group.
If NotaClub is to prosper – cliques within NotaClub are to be avoided at all cost. If you realise you’re spending time with the same small group of people all the time at events maybe it’s time to ’mingle’ a bit more or, at the very least open the group to allow others to join into it’s conversation.
If you find you’ve closed yourselves off to others at a get-together, make a point of opening ranks to let others in.
Ironically, because of the select group of people in it’s social community, NotaClub itself is a clique. However, NotaClub cannot support cliques within itself and cliques absolutely contradict NotaClub’s ethos.
If you’re in a social environment and see someone not included in a group of people, invite them into yours – particularly if you don’t know them.
They may be new to NotaClub
Use common sense – involve the new people in the get-together.
As NotaClub is a social group engaging in fun activities, NotaClub encourages the taking of photos at our get-togethers and posting them on our web sites photo galleries for all to see.
However, these days, the taking and/or posting of photos ANYWHERE comes with responsibilities regarding privacy and if there’s any repurcussions about images YOU post, then they will be directed towards YOU to deal with.
If you have an issue about being photographed at a get-together, it’s probably best not to go to that get-together or maybe, better still, remove yourself from NotaClub completely as no guarantees can be made about your ongoing anonymity.
If you take a photo of someone – whether that person is a member of the NotaClub social community or not, (and whether it was taken at a NotaClub get-together or not), that might embarrass that person – it’s probably better not to post it on any NotaClub website photo gallery – unless you get the permission of the person in the photo to do so.
If you discover a photo of you at a get-together displayed in a NotaClub website photo gallery you may request the person who took it/posted it to remove it – DON’T BLAME the ORGANISER.
What happens in NotaClub STAYS in NotaClub. Photos taken at NotaClub get-togethers are NOT to be published ANYWHERE ELSE. (e.g. Do NOT post photo(s) to Facebook OR ANY OTHER MEETUP GROUP ).
If you take photos at a NotaClub get-together in a public place and they include people not associated with NotaClub, RESPECT other people’s privacy and DO NOT post photos containing images of people who are NOT in our social community in the NotaClub photo gallery.
The organiser WILL remove ANY photo that is deemed inappropriate or detrimental to the privacy, synergy or goodwill of the NotaClub social group or any individual. If this occurs, no correspondence will be entered into.
If for any reason your association with NotaClub ceases you realise that any photos with you in them will remain in the NotaClub photo galleries. (Over time, they will disappear into obscurity anyway).
With the above in mind, give more consideration to the image content BEFORE posting photographs on the NotaClub website – and MORE importantly on the NotaClub ‘public’ website.
- NEVER post a photograph on a NotaClub website that contains a CHILD – unless that child is yours. (A child is anyone under the age of 18).
Let common sense prevail.
This next bit is tricky … consider …
There is no individual in NotaClub who created the NotaClub social community by themselves – it was created by the interaction of everyone in NotaClub over a number of years.
Therefore NO individual has any rights to use the member list for their own personal reasons to create off-calendar get-togethers for the purpose of exclusively inviting a particualrly large number of people from the NotaClub member list to the exclusion of others – particularly if, by doing so, it will be to the detriment of others in NotaClub who didn’t get an invitation.
An ‘off-calendar’ get-together is where a person privately invites a select group of people to a get together without posting the get-together on the NotaClub social calendar.
This is the tricky bit.
It’s quite normal for small groups of NotaClubbers to meet at off-calendar get togethers.
The problem arises if the invited group is large and leaves the event calendar empty to the uninvited people because most other NotaClubbers are attending that get together.
It’s reasonable for any person who puts on a particular type of event to want to select the people they like most to come to it – (birthday celebrations are a common example).
But … ANY ‘off-calendar’ event with an exclusively invited attendance is a clique, no matter how you want to see it.
Even worse is where a person arranges an off-calendar event to which the majority of people they invite come from the NotaClub member list which tends to leave the event calendar vacant.
Please at least TRY to NOT USE THE NOTACLUB MEMBER LIST TO CREATE A PERSONAL OFF-CALENDAR EVENT involving large numbers of people off the NotaClub member list.
The reality is, there’s no perfect solution to this issue.
Let common sense prevail.